A clinical research confirmed that losing someone you love, to whatever reasons puts a strain on nerves of the heart, and if the pain and sense of loss exceeds a certain threshold the nerves may actually break- resulting in a heart attack. So yes the loss of losing someone is surreal and word heartbreak is valid in all its literal sense emotionally as well as physically.
Breakups are known to have a devastating effect on the person who is at the receiving end, and the way a person carries themselves in the first few days will be having a huge impact in the coming times. However the first and foremost thing to do is to ease the pain and come out of that nexus to start a fresh.
Accepting The Fact:Running behind your ex, spamming him or asking mutuals for help is something out of which absolutely no good can come of.In Fact these steps are bound to push him away, and destroy his chances of contacting you.
Instead Just accept the fact that he/she is gone for the moment. Take one day at a time and ease yourself into reality. Go in front of a mirror and talk yourself out of the pain and misery. Take one day at a time, and promise yourself that you will not call him today no matter what. Just for today. However this does not mean that you will be calling him tomorrow first thing in the morning all we are trying to say here is that if you had it in you to control yourself the day before, doing the same thing today is going to be a lil more easy. (Not easy as a cakewalk), just easier than what it was yesterday.
Social Media:There is no need to block him out from every social platform, because that will show him that you are most affected and will only push him further away, which is something you just don’t want at the moment.
Instead Log out of all the apps, and uninstall them for the time, even better ask your best friend to change the password to all your accounts, and keep it with herself for the moment and give them back to you when the time is right, and trust me, she is the only person who will know when you will be back to your normal self.Not only will this keep you away from the updates of your ex and will help you stop stalking him. Getting off social media will give you more time for yourself and will also prevent in comparing your life to others who are happy in their relationships.
Being with someone:The more time you spend all by yourself the more you are bound to feel lonely and sorry for yourself, and thus you end up missing him more or worse you end up curled in a corner crying yourself to sleep fearing that world has come to an end.
Instead Be with your friends, family and even better pets! The best thing to do just the next day after your break up is to spend some time with your friends. No we are not suggesting you to put on a dress and head to the nearest club. We are simply saying that just be with that one friend who understands you the most and would make you realise your value, keep you distracted for hours and in no time will make you your usual self again.
Eat all you want: This one is my personal favourite as it did wonders for me, coming out of a relationship where the guy did little but nothing to value me, i tried to value myself and bamb. This one proved to be the game changer, well at least in my case.Because not calling himself the whole day and trying noy to cry, was a not so easy task. So after every little achievement of self control. I rewarded myself with a little something.
Not to forget, eating something you love releases hormones like oxytocin and serotonin which send signals of well being to the brain, which results in a relaxed and motivated you.
Change & Escalate: Being in a relationship consumes most of your time and energy and you are left with no free time at your disposal to do little things that you wish to do.Well not only you have time to kill, it’s best for you to stay distracted. In addition to this doing something only for your ourselves is bound to give a boost to our self confidence . Also we get to go out again and meet new people. Looks pretty promising! Right?
When a person is at the receiving end of the breakup of a relationship is left not only with countless memories and promises that are now meaningless, it is this person who is left with the ashes of the relationship and most importantly they are parted with the person they once used to be. However, no matter how difficult things feel or get, we must get up and show up.Because this what life is all about, Because no matter how strong you believe yourself to be this is just life’s way of making you a little more brave!
