“ A scholar in Psychology, still couldn’t make out how she can love the person to death and want to kill him at the same time”
In the roller coaster ride of life, we come across a lot of people some impact our brains with their charisma, some touch our hearts with their goodness and then their are ones who get on our nerves, just by breathing, and still we fail to understand why we love them so much that they waltz in our brains, and set up a camp in our hearts just by being there. Yup, I am talking about the bond we share with our Brother’s and Sisters. Have you all ever wonder what is so special about the over protective monkey, who is apparently your mom’s apple of the eye and why is your father always doting on the little girl you guys supposedly picked out from the trash? Well, apart from the facts that a relationship between the siblings is probably the longest relationship you share with someone in your whole life. (Whoa!! Never did think about it), that just because your parents decided to have another child, You will have to bear with the consequences a long time.However deep inside we all know that there Indeed, is something special about the “Bro-Sis” equation, that we created an entire festival around this beautiful and unique bond. A symbolic representation to state that how a brother will go any lengths to protect his sister and how diligently the sisters pray for the brother’s well being and long life. But, for today’s generation its all about “ I got your back”.
Remember, how they would always say that your brother/sister are your best friends. But, friends are something we choose for ourselves and I am pretty sure that I did not choose the irritating guy in the next room wearing the same socks he wore three days ago and shouting for a glass of water. Nevertheless he is doing it because he knows that I will get up, curse him and still get him what he wants. Been there, Done that . Right? Well the reason why we do this all the times is “Attachment Theory” : As Humans all of us have a tendency to feel closer to the person who makes us feel secure, thus feeling content just by the other one being in sight, the theory also goes the other way round the elder sibling also starts to develop an inertia towards the younger one, and as we grow up the actions come more out of our subconscious part of the brain, stating that the affection has penetrated itself to the core of our hearts. This is the reason that brothers and sisters have their own little room in each others heart, obviously we let them move in because of a little favour they did to us, or because the smaller one was looking really cute while sleeping and a dozen of other reasons and by the time we know what is happening, It is too late or as Caprio said :” I am too involved”. Another fact which makes this relationship stronger than all the others is that human’s are resistant to change and as we all know this one is not changing ever! Carrying the images of other one in their heart for ever and ever, and mind you the these hearts comes with an expandable storage, Hence they have all the information to make you feel anything they want to , name it and they have it. Such is the relationship that they can make you go week in the knees, make you cry, tickle your laughter bone, and most importantly can blackmail you from 0 to 100, in about 5 seconds!! That is literally faster than a Ferrari.
Well, like every relationship that we form in our lives this one also evolves into one of it’s kind having its up’s and down’s, fights and favours, and a lot of emotions and drama most importantly all of this happens in different stages of life, Ready to go down the memory lane Fasten your seat belt guys the content below is highly nostalgic, The very first and the most pious phase in every brother sister relationship is the one when you get introduced to each other although none of you remembers this phase the seeds of affection and protectiveness are sown deep inside your hearts the bigger one becomes the role model and the latter becomes a toy, to cute to imagine, right? Then you start growing older and like every other relationship, the honeymoon phase is over and there is time for some reality check the sister is no longer cute, and brother is no longer the superhero and the only role your parents play in your life is that of a referee your living room becomes a splitting image of a WWE ring and so on. We all are way to familiar with the phase the relationship where we wanted to beat the crap out of each other.Then comes the kitkat break of your relationship where your interests are as distinct as two magnet polls, we are talking about the ages old battle : Pink vs Blue, Unicorn vs Harry potter, and Espn vs Disney. ( I literally imagined hitting my brother with remote).
After this, arises the million dollar question that how does this weird relationship comes across as the most important and special one in our life.well the most logical answer to this is the Empathy Factor that brings us close together and knits us into an unbreakable bond. Being born and brought up in the same household, probably going to the same school and a lot of other reasons. The times you stood up for each other, the favours which were uncalled for. First salary gifts, Driving around with each other, Teaching your sister how to drive and then going behind her back and flirting with her girlfriends, and then whilst just having a good time together what you both got was a bond that would last a lifetime. and then life happens and you split apart into your own different worlds, building up your own world the only thing that still remain intact in your bond is “ I got your back”, You certainly come across other people who love you more and who will be becoming more dearer to you but the things that remain intact is how you both motivate each other for even the tiniest of things, and think about having a personal critique who throws 100% relevant facts right into your face.
The inertia of this relationship that holds it together no matter what is what brought them together in the first place, our parents the simplest of the moments brothers and sisters share with each other, are somewhere down the line associated with them isn’t it? Fighting with each other about who is mumma’s favourite child, Complaining about each other and asking for one hundred percent justice. Fighting about how your brother gets permission to stay out and about past deadline and the number of times the brother had to apologise just because daddy dearest always supports his daughter, then there were the times it was both of you trying to fight the generation gap situation in your homes. Planning Mothers day Surprises for your mom and what not. its always been you two, complimenting each other exactly where the other one lags.
Memories are a very powerful tool when its comes it emotions and we all know that you people occupy the highest data in the hard disk of each others heart a single drop of them and we are ready to dive in the ocean and reminisce each and every moment that we can the pranks we played on each other, the weird pictures that are stored in our phones and will come out at the exactly right moment, The way you tried to outwit each other during your whole childhood, and whose side was mom on, and the yay me! moment when your brother or sister got a nice scolding because of you, Weirdly natural transitions of fighting to be your mom’s favourite child to planning a mothers day surprise. The evolution of this relationship is one hell of a journey, and actually has a contribution to make you what you are today, apart from sharing similar chromosomes you guys have shared a lot, than you will ever share with anyone else.
Psychologically, we all yearn for someone, who will understand our silence and take a stand for us no matter what, having a feeling that there is someone like that in your life induces hormones of well being and this is why even though we hate our brother or sister for the stupidest thing they did five minutes ago, we tend to start missing them as soon as they are gone. This one goes out to the strongest and the longest bond that will be cherished forever, the only relationship whose recipe’s main ingredient is fighting!!
